I know, I know. Writing about this makes it seem....well...like I am just a boring housewife, who only thinks of her children and homemaking things. But. It's not true. And I really have something to say about this. So.
Why is it that no one really talks about homemaking in a tangible way? It seems to me anyway, that you either hear about the Marthas who talk as if they have it all together and their houses never are in disarray. Or you hear about the women who talk about housework only if it is to complain. Or you hear about taking care of one's home, in a decorating sense...you know...like about how to pick out the exact right color or have the cleverest idea for storing your shoes. And it should be noted that this last one of the three usually involves spending money on some elaborate system or overpriced product.
What I would like to know....is how to keep a home that is clean and tidy and beautiful, without spending money or contacting an interior designer. I would like there to be a magazine that is about housekeeping when you have a brood of children and making a room artisitic when you only have ten dollars!
I would like to read something that reminds me that taking care of my old bookshelf that has no paint and is not quite big enough, is better than spending money that I do not have on one that is fashionable and more useful. I really would. Because then I wouldn't have to spend so much time convincing myself that these truths really are true. I wouldn't have to work so hard at stopping the comparing that happens in my mind every time I see a picture of someone else's living room. I would look at what I have and see what a gift it is, instead of wishing it were something else.
I read once that "Comparison is the thief of joy." And I really believe that. The tricksy thing about it is, that I can stop comparing and feel fine and joyful and content, but then a friend comes over and I worry that they are comparing! I worry, that although I am fine with what I have or don't have, that they will feel bad for me! Oh to be truly content with the things that matter. To be deeply rooted in them so that the little things are just that...little things.